Dr JJ's Diary of a Doc: Allowing yourself a much needed 'Mom's Time Out'

One of the great perks I enjoy, since I travel a lot as president of MD Moms, is taking advantage of the opportunity to meet great moms and Baby Silk customers in any city I wake up in. A few months ago I had the privilege (for the second year in a row) of being the “in house” pediatrician for Mommy and Baby week at the Greenhouse Spa in Dallas.

Certainly, a week at a high end spa is usually only the subject of dreams for most of us (including me), so seizing an opportunity like this (4 days of sublime treatments in the company of several moms and adorable babies) was a no-brainer…..

I met a great group of moms from all backgrounds and walks of life as well as a few speakers who brought their insights and expertise to this event. Two moms had 4 kids under kindergarten age (twins made the math “easy” for both of them – one was a stay at home mom, and the other was a fulltime attorney in Washington DC), one mom had a very young one month old, one was having a last hurrah before returning to her position as an aerospace engineer at NASA, another a single mom/prosecuting attorney who had lost her home in Hurricane Katrina, a store owner, a foundation head and 2 mompreneurs – one who manufactures organic baby food and the other, socially responsible dog products.

These are lucky women – auspiciously not because they could afford the week at the Greenhouse (although I’d be lying if I didn’t acknowledge that), but because they have taken the time, with the support of their families, to recognize that relaxation, revitalization, and recreation were important enough to stop real life for a few days, and treat themselves to some needed rest, some healthy food, a few naps made possible by the help of in-house helpers, and an opportunity to make some new friends.

How often do we, as mothers in particular, sacrifice things like a good haircut, a meal or coffee out with a friend, or worse yet, a needed doctor’s appointment or yearly mammogram, because we are just “too busy?”

How often do we say “no thank you” when a friend, relative or colleague offers to take our kids out, drive them to school or daycare, or just give us a break?

While martyrdom was popular in the dark ages, there should be no role for it in our lives. Allow yourselves to take the time to assign your partner to your child for an hour, light some candles, and soak in a bath. Say yes to your neighbor, let her watch your child, and go get your hair cut or nails polished.

Grab your young one, and curl up together for a nap, and defer a few errands or chores to just suspend yourself in rest for a few minutes. Despite the fact that most of us don’t have a big budget for a spa, we can easily create some “aaah” time as a priority. You will find, as I have this week, that the world does not stop and implode when you are gone for a few minutes or hours. These breaks are difficult to take, but allow us to refresh our bodies, minds, and spirits so that we become better mothers, better partners, and better people.